On Civil Partnership


Today I am going to see a dear friend, and tomorrow I see her join with her new partner in a civil partnership. She’s asked me to do this reading:

The Art of a Civil Partnership – Anon

A good civil partnership must be created.

In a civil partnership, the little things are the big things….’

It’s never being too old to hold hands.

It’s remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once each day

It’s never going to sleep angry.

It’s having a mutual sense of values and common objectives

It is standing together and facing the world

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways

It’s having the capacity to forgive and forget

It’s giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow

It’s a common search for the good and the beautiful

It’s not only finding the right person

It is being the right partner.

As I rehearse these words, it strikes me that good partnerships are all about being civil! It often puzzles me that we do not extend the  courtesy we give to others to our nearest and dearest. Apparently couples that thrive, don’t allow arguments to escalate, and prioritise their relationship. That’s all I can remember of a book I bought when I got married called ‘Now That I am Married, Why isn’t Everything Perfect?’ It is a tribute to my husbands faith in our relationship back in 1996 that he put a sticker on that changed ‘isn’t’ to ‘is’! Today, I am just grateful for my own long term partnership, and wish everyone – including my lovely friend – the enduring happiness that I have had!